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Overcoming Your Overwhelm

We all feel overwhelmed from time to time. So, what’s the best way to move past it?

We all have to deal with stress time to time. Some more than others. One of the most common causes of stress in our society is feeling downright overwhelmed.
And, being overwhelmed can feel awfully…well, overwhelming. When you get into that state of mind it’s difficult to navigate your way back out to the other side.
I know how it feels. I often (try always!) find myself juggling a million things at once. Or, perhaps it’s just one mammoth task that has so many different steps it makes you crazy trying to figure it all out. When there are many different things calling your attention, it’s difficult to decide what you should do first.
So, what usually happens? You start one thing, then another, then another, and don’t quite get any of them finished.
Or, you feel SO overwhelmed that you do absolutely nothing!  And then it all just piles up and gets out of control and soon you are pulling out your hair and kicking yourself.
 
Can you relate?
I’ve been there.  All of the above.
But, fear not, there is hope! It’s quite simple really. 
There is one very old, very effective, very wise rule to overcoming your overwhelm.
Are you ready for it?
Here it is…

One thing at a time.

That’s right.  Just one little thing at a time.
 
I know it sounds obvious, but this is it.
 
How do you do this? It’s easier than you think, if you let it be. You pick one thing out of that mile-long list of yours and you focus on that one thing only. See, now, it’s not so bad is it? Just that one little task. Once you have completed it, you move on to the next one thing.
 
If you have one thing that seems too big, you break it down into smaller things. Then, you do those smaller things one at a time as individual tasks.
 
So, how do you know which one thing to start with? When you have all of these many looming responsibilities, how on earth do you figure out which to begin with?
 
The answer is easy.
 
The answer is inside you.
 
You’ll know which task calls to you most urgently if you quiet your mind for a moment and listen.  You can do this.
 
To get all of those tasks that are bouncing around in your head sorted, write them all down on paper.  Then choose the one that calls to you, and tackle it full force.
 
You can do this.
 
Believe it.
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To Be a Guiding Light

The best thing to do is not to be the lifesaver, but to be a guiding light.

Most of us have known someone at one time or another who we felt tended to drag us down, rain on our parade when we are happy about something, or make us feel bad for the good fortune in our lives.
 
In many cases, the offender does not do so intentionally, but the effect is just the same. Of course, if someone is abusive, dangerous, or particularly toxic, getting that person out of our lives is the absolutely right thing to do, including seeking help to do so if necessary.
However, I have known a number of beautiful souls who tend to be very negative, often because they suffer emotionally, but who never intend to cause anyone pain or drag them down. It is often just a side effect of being so down themselves.
 
Sometimes, we have someone in our lives who we care about, who is good person, but who we can hardly talk to without feeling like they have inadvertently burst our bubble, yet again, for no good reason other than the depression they may be struggling with.
 
Sometimes, we find ourselves trying to “save” someone who struggles emotionally because we can see their potential and want to help them realize it, and instead end up feeling like we are being dragged down with them.
 
Is it better to cut these people out of our lives and get on with things? Maybe, maybe not. But, there is a way to approach how we interact with them that tends to mostly take care of the decision for us. When you know someone who is treading in dark waters, but who isn’t actually reaching out for help, first and foremost, don’t try to reach down and pull them into your boat, so to speak. Trying to save another person that is struggling will only cause you to be pulled down with them, if they are not ready and willing to climb into the boat with you.
 
In these situations, we have to pull back, cut the cord of dependency if there is one, and learn to be a passive guide. The best thing to do is not to be the lifesaver, but to be a guiding light. Detach, stand back, and show them the way by being your amazing self and living an amazing life, while leaving it up to them to follow, or not.
 
This can be hard at first, because there is often a fear that if we stop reaching out and feeding the cycle, the person we care about will simply drift away. To be honest, that is a possibility. But, if the only way to keep someone in your life is to let them drag you down with them, then maybe they shouldn’t be in your life.
 
This is where the hard decisions get made for you.
 
You accept that you may have to let go, and if it becomes necessary, that is what you do.
 
On the other hand, you may be surprised to find that person doesn’t drift away. That they follow your guiding light and start to pull themselves up to be where you are. This is such a beautiful thing to see. If they want to be in your life, your awesomeness will inspire them to want to be awesome, too.
 
And, when this approach is appropriate, it is so worth the time and effort. Some people are worth holding onto.
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Write a Motivation Manifesto

We all have times of internal struggle.

Sometimes we are disappointed in ourselves, feel overwhelmed, inadequate, or hopeless – and these are the moments it can be a particularly challenging to be motivated to live up to our true potential.
 
These feelings can run deep and be surrounded by complicated situations, but sometimes we just need a pick-me-up to feel inspired again, and can’t always rely on an outside source to give us that.
 
Here’s a simple and fun idea to prepare for these spells of Debbie Downer syndrome, so you can pull yourself out of that funk and start kicking butt at life again.
 
Write the words that YOU need to hear when you are struggling and stressed. Remind yourself of your true worth. Remind yourself of your good qualities, your capabilities, what makes you special and awesome.
Be your own cheerleader, and tell your inner go-getter what it needs to hear to get pumped up and energized again.
List the things you believe when it comes to motivation, passion, success, progress – and the things you want to believe.
This will be your personal manifesto of motivation.
Take the time to write it out in whatever way works for you – art journal, a notebook, a digital journal, a vision board.
Have fun, get creative, and keep moving forward!